Having someone in your circle who is consistently “the chosen one” or “the lucky one” can sometimes get you down. Everyone can be prone to envy and wanting what others have or experience, but over time it can really impact you. 

A great example of this situation comes from one of my favorite shows, “Gossip Girl.” The great battle between Serena and Blair is a constant stressor in their relationship. Blair always felt like the ugly duckling when compared to Serena because Serene seemed lucky and always had things fall into her lap. Blair found herself constantly comparing herself, envious, and doing harmful things to her friend. Serena was the “it girl”. She got the guys, the opportunities, and really anything she wanted. Blair had to plot and scheme to get what she wanted in life. In the end, she was able to get past this and see the beauty in herself, her journey, and what made her just as amazing as Serena. 

Consistently thinking you are not good enough and that your friends are simply lucky does a couple of things: 

  1. It could discredit something they have been working toward achieving
  2. It isn’t fair to your OWN timeline; no one person has the same path as another 
  3. It ruins your relationship with that person because you are never truly happy for their achievements 

The next time you find yourself thinking “I wish that could be me” or “they are just lucky”, think of these affirmations: 

  1. The harder I work, the luckier I get. 
  2. Luck is believing you are lucky. 
  3. Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a stroke of luck. 
  4. Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity. 

We all have the opportunity to be lucky, to be great, and be everything we aspire to be. The only unlucky charm is you not believing in what you can accomplish.

Challenge yourself to write down or say affirmations every day. My favorites to say to myself are… “I am alive, I am important, I matter.” Find what works for you and empower yourself daily! 

This post was submitted by Taylor Outler (Chi).